I am officially back from my honeymoon! Woo! I’m a married lady now! We will be returning to our regularly scheduled posts.
It was a wild ride, but I don’t think I would change anything about it. Except maybe not arriving an hour late… How??? The wedding was at 3pm and we started getting ready at 8:30 am!!! HOW?!?!?
In any case, let me give you Quirky’s 10 Tips to Wedding and Honeymoon.
Tip 1 – Make sure both of you are involved in most, if not all, of the planning for everything. Unless one of you wants nothing to do with it, in which case make yourself known ahead of time to avoid conflict.
Tip 2 – Breathe. Something will definitely go wrong. It’s the way the universe works. Things don’t always go as planned, and as long as it’s close, it’s good enough. If someone else is taking over an aspect of the planning, and if it’s something small, let them do it. Less for you to worry about and more for them to feel included. There is no way you can do it all. Let your moms, dads, sisters, brothers, friends, etc. do a few things for you so you don’t have to worry.
Tip 3 – And this one is for guests mostly; if you are not in the wedding party or asked to give a toast of some kind, don’t give one. The wedding is not about you, don’t take the spotlight away from the happy couple unless you have been asked to do so by them. It’s tacky, and rude, and you will be judged.
Tip 4 – Let someone else handle it. Something not going right? Let someone else handle it. There’s no chicken? Let someone else handle it. As someone who is very possessive and controlling, it was difficult to give up the control, but once you do and stop worrying about it, it’s so much better. I don’t care if your hair doesn’t look perfect, as long as you show up and have fun is what matters!
Tip 5 – Honeymoon. Meet somewhere in between, because one of you will be a whiner. Even when you do meet halfway one of you will still whine. But at least pick a place and a thing that both of you agree on. It won’t be exactly what you wanted, but you will have lots of other opportunities to do exactly what you want. The honeymoon is a chance to just spend time with each other. Who cares what it is, as long as you get the hell away from it all.
Tip 6 – Go on your honeymoon a day or two after the wedding. Way more relaxing after ALL that stress you just went through! And it gives you some time before you have to come back and do all that post wedding stuff; like thank you cards, and going through gifts, etc.
Tip 7 – Be a courteous tourist. Don’t stop in the middle of the road to take pictures, Don’t block a path because you want to take pictures. Be aware of your surroundings and be courteous to the people around you.
Tip 8 – Back to the wedding, since this list has no order what so ever, make sure you go to each table and thank your guests for coming. Not only did they come, but they most likely also brought a gift. You better damn well be willing to go to them and thank them. It’s a person you don’t know? They don’t know you either, they came though. You better say thank you to someone who took the time out of their day to come and see you.
Tip 9 – If there is something you absolutely want to happen, make sure everyone knows about it. Don’t keep it to yourself and expect everyone to know you want things to go a certain way. It’s a day for you and your soon to be spouse, it’s whatever the two of you decide. Unless you don’t care about what kind of napkins to use; in that case, designate someone to decide that for you.
Tip 10 – Party.
That’s it! You can look at all the wedding planning sites you want, but at the end of the day it’s your wedding day! Both of you should be having fun. Even in the not so fun parts.
The Quirky Digest